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Coronavirus & “No Choices”

In Systemic Constellation Work we look at revealing and healing the hidden patterns of learned behaviours and shared family narratives across the generations.   This is in acknowledgement of the Universal Laws of Evolution that recognise that everything is path dependent on what or who came before.

Homo Sapiens are primarily storytelling creatures.  However, we all need to know that we hold a place in a bigger story than our own.  This helps us to feel more in control of our own lives and to acknowledge both our evolutionary intergenerational and cultural identities.

Our parents, grandparents and great grandparents all experienced the shared narrative of “NO CHOICES” particularly through the phenomenon of World War II.  By the time the war ended 40 million people were dead and because of the Holocaust we had to come to terms with the fact that humanity is capable of any crime.  But that wasn’t the end of it.   Bereft and depressed our families then had to face enforced rationing.  The rationing after the war continued for 9 years and in some aspects became stricter than during the war.  It meant again that from 1939 to 1954 there were “NO CHOICES” in what we could purchase.

What we are responding to in the here and now with the Coronavirus, and the closing of social gatherings and restaurants etc. means that our inherited beliefs and narratives from our families of what NO CHOICES means that we may also experience heightened anxiety and irrational responses.

Yesterday, I woke early and realised I was running out of stock cubes!!!!  Everytime I had looked before in the shops there were none available.  So, before breakfast to get ahead of the game, I went straight out to Planet Organic and oh joy of joys there they were.  I bought the 2 packets allowed of various ones and came home.  What I realise is that I am feeling overly threatened by this situation and need to stockpile.  Just like my Grandmother and Mother did I am making homemade nutritious soups.  I am a Baby Boomer or put another way a Post War Traumatised Baby and grew up with their constant refrain, that they didn’t have chocolate biscuits in the war!  My panicked response in the present when there isn’t an actual shortage of food is coloured by my family history of having no choices! And I do this for a living!!!

Be aware of these inherited collective inner responses to this situation and BE KIND TO YOURSELF.  It is normal to overreact like this.  Our lives have been temporarily turned upside down reminding us of previous traumas in our family history when we had NO CHOICE, through either war or enforced immigration.   We all need to acknowledge the historical context we have been born into.  Acknowledging my family and cultural history helps me feel not so crazy!!!  We do have a CHOICE – remembering that we are all walking talking living Family History Books.  This gives us the opportunity to learn more about ourselves and how our family history affects our responses in the here and now.

And maybe just maybe the effect of lowering pollution in the skies and on the roads maybe a way of the planet healing itself.

If you want to talk about any of this please feel free to text or email me, I am here to help.

Warmest wishes,

Janet